I had a conversations with quite a few guys, who simply went down the drain after a break-up from a relationship.
I know how it feels like. (been there before after a 3 years relationship break-up).
I've seen guys, who simply was chasing the girl of his dream, but eventually the girl went to someone else instead of him, who have been showing his care and concern etc to the girl of his dream.
I am sure you know how it feels like when these all happened to you in one way or another.
After getting in contact through email with, non other than the man, David DeAngelo,
I was struck in the head with the term 'Wussy' and the term 'Attraction'.
When i let go of my ex 2 years ago, I blamed her for everything. And start acting like a wussy deciding to want her back.
Realization came to me months after that, we cannot put the blame entirely on the women but ourselves.
Women want the REAL man to be with her, not Wussy or Wimp or Pussy.
What does these means?
Simply, guy who tends to behave in a wimpish, submissive, needy, way.
I learnt from my mistakes for acting that way to her.
Women, NEVER EVER BE ATTRACTED TO THESE KINDS...
NEVER
EVER
The term 'Attraction'.
Women may be with a Wuss or married to one, but,
will they be attracted to them?
They will not be.
The Wuss may have lots of money, he may have courted her for years that she finally gave in but will she be ATTRACTED to him?
I doubt so.
Women don’t CHOOSE who they feel ATTRACTION for, and they don’t choose the emotions that they feel either.
It just HAPPENS.- David DeAngelo
When you have attracted her in the right direction but eventually, you started turning into a Wuss time to time,
women loss that emotion called Attraction, of you.
Women do get frustrated with these when her man suddenly turn into a submissive wimpy Wuss.
One of my girlfriends once told me, 'I get bored with my guy. The longer I'm with him, the more I get bored. It seems that there is nothing between us. It is getting boring.'
I was like, 'Then, why you were still with him?'
The Answer next was not surprising, but I knew it will come: ' Well. I don't want to hurt his feelings. He loves me though. But I don't anymore.'
What I believe is when we guys make a mistake of being a 'WussBag', just like DeAngelo called it, women may just leave and guys will simply feel at loss, asking, What the hell is going on?!
And then the guy might think that, by telling her he still loves her, she may never leave for someone else who is instead a Jerk.
But, of course, it will never turn around.
Ok. Here, let's talk about the specific question. By David DeAngelo
1. “How do you interpret her behavior? Is she still interested somehow or what?”
I interpret her behavior as NATURAL and VERY, VERY PREDICTABLE.
If you do it again in the future, the same thing will probably happen.
Is she still interested?
Yes, she is.
But not in anything more than being your FRIEND.
You have, with your actions and communication, KILLED the ATTRACTION that she felt for you.
This is something you’re going to have to deal with and take responsibility for.
You turned into a Wuss, and now you’re paying the price.
You have to come to terms with your Inner Wuss before improvement can begin.
2. “Is there – according your experience – any realistic chance to get her back, i.e. to trigger again her interest and attraction?”
Well, this is a sticky question.
There is a CHANCE, yes.
But here’s the problem. Probably 90% of the time when I tell a guy exactly what to do in order to get a girl back, he screws it up… doesn’t do it exactly the way I say, etc.
And, of course, he makes things worse in the process.
THE PROBLEM
Focusing on getting her back will not only lessen the chances, but it will keep you from moving on in your life.
The best thing for you to do is MOVE ON in your life.
Ironically, the way to give yourself the best chances of getting her back is to NOT TRY… instead, go date other women, and be scarce in her life.
In other words, you’re never going to make her feel any ATTRACTION for you again by staying in touch, being her friend, and being “nice”… and by trying to “win her over” again.
It would be nice if things worked that way, but they don’t.
Now, why do guys chase women, and keep doing the WRONG things… even after a woman has left?
In our dealings with women, we guys tend to think things like “That’s not fair” and “I did all the right things” and to feel self-righteous because we’re the good guy… but miss the point and not get the RESULTS we want.
Remember though…
Attraction isn’t FAIR, it isn’t “right”, it doesn’t care how “nice” you are. Attraction can be cruel and painful sometimes.
You know, the irony of your situation is that this girl was probably just as bummed-out as you were about this whole thing happening.
Women HATE it when guys turn into Wussies.
I know, I know… she did things that made you turn into more and more of a Wuss. It’s her fault too… right?
Wrong.
Women do this stuff to TEST you.
They’re not actually TRYING to turn you into a Wuss. But if you DO turn into a Wuss, she realizes that she can’t trust you to be a man and she has to go.
Now, she’s not doing this to hurt you, she’s only doing it because she wasn’t getting the feelings that she wanted with you… and now she’s getting them with Jerk-Boy.
THE SOLUTION
As I mentioned, your best bet in this situation is to MOVE ON. Get on with it.
Most importantly, start dating OTHER WOMEN IMMEDIATELY.
Not in a few days, and not next week. NOW.
And, stop calling your ex. Stop responding to her quickly. Stop being her WUSS-FRIEND.
It’s obvious that the LAST thing you want is to wind up “just being friends” with her… so STOP DOING IT.
Next time she calls, tell her you have a date over at the house, or you’re leaving to meet a woman. Of course, make sure IT’S TRUE, like I said.
Stop being so AVAILABLE.
Get busy enjoying your life.
Get busy dating other women.
If you find yourself thinking about her and wanting to hear her voice, BITCH-SLAP yourself. If you’re feeling weak, have a friend do it.
And when you do wind up talking to her, say the following:
“Hey, calling for more therapy? No-can-do… I have to run to the gym to get in shape for my hot date on Friday…”
You feel me, dog?
And remember…
In this world, “I was a nice guy and did nice things for her” doesn’t cut it. Attraction has a totally different set of rules… and exceptions. And if you want to get and keep an attractive woman, then you’d better learn them.
It’s a skill, and you’re not going to get it by being “nice” and doing everything your mom taught you…
If a woman feels ATTRACTION for a man, she’ll do almost anything to stay with him. If she DOESN’T feel it, then the chances are slim that she’ll stay around.
These rules are even MORE TRUE when you’re dealing with an ATTRACTIVE woman who gets a lot of attention from guys.
The irony of this situation is that I think it’s a lot easier to make a woman feel ATTRACTION than it is to be a Wuss who chases after her, buys her things, and annoys the hell out of her.
I spent a lot of years of my life being a Wuss.
I made all the classic mistakes.
I should probably be awarded an honorary degree in the subject… really.
But, over the last several years I’ve not only learned how to cure myself and evict my Inner Wuss… I’ve also learned how to make women feel ATTRACTION with my body language and communication alone.
I only wish someone would have shown me this stuff fifteen years ago…
If you’re reading this right now and it’s time that you evicted your inner Wussy, and learned how to make women feel ATTRACTION for you without chasing them, buying them things, and giving all of your power away, then listen up…
THE TIME IS NOW.
