Do you know that being nice doesn't work in the dating scene?
No. I don’t mean you start whacking the poor girl, dragging her and left her just like that.
You a whacko, a piece of shit and you go to jail.
I don’t meant you start being abusive towards ladies.
No. Strictly no.
Ok. It makes sense doesn’t it that a woman will get attracted to guys who is attentive, give her what she wants, gifts, treats her well.
Of course it makes logical sense.
Reality check.
It doesnt really work that well.
I can say, it doesn’t work.
Seriously.
As my title says by itself, the term ‘wussy’.
Women aren’t attracted to ‘nice’ guys who do ‘nice’ things for them most of the time, and being by their backside all the time.
Let’s use the term ‘ATTRACTION’ here.
As i have always mention about sub-conscious mind level, it happens in an unconscious way automatically to a certain cues.
OK. We are easily attracted or respond to a beautiful face, nice body, etc of a lady.
For them ladies, hmm…
They happen for a certain reason nobody knows what except them themselves. (On certain occasion, physical attraction do happen though)
I somehow came across this from a certain reading somewhere i cant remember but it got stuck to my head.
“When a woman feels ATTRACTION to a man, she will do things that
seem to be completely illogical, irrational, and even against her best
interests in order to be with the man who is the object of her desires.”
You get that?
Being nice doesn’t work.(in the dating scene)
To an unconscious psychological sense, being nice seems to be an insecure person way, a wuss, and you trying very hard to get her attention. Or she might be thinking, you are bribing her to get what you want. Or her happiness.
You can be nice to a certain level, if you get me here.. But being ‘nice’ doesn’t work in the dating scene.
Have you realise anything out there in the world that is happening right in front of your eyes?
Average-looking men, with a really hot lady in his arms.
I’ve seen one.
Not once, but quite a few times.
Its about personality. ATTRACTION to a personality of someone.
Don’t start being a wuss.
Take control of your reality.
If you're a typical nice guy, considerate, genuine, likes to talk and have intelligent conversations with women then you MAY have been in this situation before.I do. I never went as far as meeting new women during my teenage time. I was with someone.
But once I became single, I decided to do something about myself and learnt something very important : Being A Nice Guy doesn't create Attraction
Let's Give you Examples.
Do you ever find that the more you talk to her (without escalating physically) you end up talking yourself out of closing the deal. Suddenly you realise her body shift, the conversation die out to some neutral and boring topic, and she starts looking around the room at other couples possibly thinking "man why isn't this guy making any moves on me, does he like me?".
If you know what I'm talking about here then keep reading as you're not alone.
You're sitting there at the table, opposite each other face to face, had a great meal and has these thoughts in your mind running "How do I kiss this girl from all the way over here" and a favorite "I haven't touched this girl all night and it's going to seem awkward if I touch her now" suddenly this distance between you seems to be drawing out and it seems she's further and further away from you.
When eventually you call it a night and you're ready to part ways, and you touch her hand poised to strike her a kiss on the lips ... and she flinches .... then she looks down at your hand like to question you "What are you doing" or "It's too early for hand holding buddy" and all of a sudden a drip of cold sweat lines your neck and your pulse starts racing, palms get sweaty and all you hear is your heartbeat thumping away like the Reggae Drums bongos. pum pum ... pum pum ..pum pum pum ...
Ha!! . . .
Getting a little dramatic here, well this used to happen to me on MOST DATES or rather on my term; on most 'Meet-Ups' and the reason is I let it happen, I knew what to do and how to prevent it from happening again but I was scared to act.
That happened long time ago, but now this NEVER happens to me as I assert my inhibitions and I don't apologise for being a man and thinking AND acting how a man SHOULD act.
I do no longer wait at the end of the date. I act on impulse and it's worked for me ever since I started doing it.
When you wait at the end of the date, to kiss the girl goodbye or whatesover,
it seems you are rushing things and it's like it is the last thing in the world and you have to do it or else. . .
You get what I meant?
Extract from a blog by Alex Coulson:
''The good news and strangely enough the most effective strategy for having more success from the date to the bedroom is to break social norms and follow your inhibitions. Women respond to this more and appreciate this more than the "nice guy" approach. Nice guys finish last didn't you know? =)
Stop watching chick flicks, where nervous "sensitive" actors are making a sissy fool of themselves courting and being gentleman like. Forget hiding behind these social ideals of how dates should go and create the date how YOU want it to go.
The fact is most of us get our knowledge on the dating scene and the "how to" on dates from movies.
Answer this honestly do you ever consult your male friends and ask them what to do on a date? Do you ask your siblings, parents or other family what normally goes down? no probably not.
You get the ideals from movies, film, tv and the MEDIA. Yes, that evil media that manipulates men into buying gifts, expensive diamond rings, working 50 hours weeks to get a good car and an expensive apartment so women will be more responsive to them. The fact is women aren't much more responsive to this as much as you think, I know of guys who take girls back to their hostels (where they share a room with 20 other people) and they close the deal on a bunk bed. They do this consistently too with beautiful glamour girls.
Women want men pure and simple.
What women want is an un-apologetic man who believes in honesty, being genuine and is unashamed of his desire as a man. If the girl says "let's just be friends" which is the dreaded friends zone line he would say "I have enough friends" and walk away or convey he's willing to walk away. Powerful huh.
Women RESPOND to men. Women want MASCULINE MEN to take them in every way possible. They want the man to be most importantly:
-Unapologetic about their desires -True to themselves (don't say things that are meant to impress her) -Genuine and sincere
Don't be ashamed of what you're thinking and be open to touching her and kissing her when you feel like it (Don't plan it or do it just because this is the moment when you "should" touch/kiss her).
I hope you learn from this and start acting out your desires as this is the only TRUE way to live.
We act on what we think is best to our level.
Do not EVER react to a woman's action.
Meaning, when a woman do something, you act upon on it.
That's not the best thing to do.
Act on how you want it to happen. Women will follow your LEAD.
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